Have you ever felt anxious and shy at an involvement or job fair? When talking to a professor? If so, don’t worry. We’ve all been there. VALLEY has some tips on how to get rid of the nerves and build your interpersonal skills with professors, employers and even your friends!
The Feeling
Imagine this … you walk into a room with your dream internship in mind. You spend an hour getting ready and put on your best outfit. As you open the doors, you scan the room to find the company you’ve been dreaming of working for, your portfolio and resume in hand. You approach the table and see two recruiters. You go up to shake their hands and then you freeze. You forget your name, your year, your major and practically everything about your life.
That feeling is gut-wrenching. It’s awkward and embarrassing. Though you push the feeling aside, you can’t quite shake it as you carry out the rest of your conversation, but you just know deep down you botched your first (and only) impression.
The Solution
You may be wondering, “How do I get over that feeling? How can I set my nerves aside to show others my authentic self?” Here are some tips that may help you:
Remember that they are people, too.
Employers and professors are people too. They want to get to know you just as much as you want the job or to succeed in the class.
Be confident.
YOU know yourself best. Prove it! Having a confident mindset makes you seen as a strong individual who succeeds in your work.
Do your homework, but be yourself.
Don’t go into an interview or a meeting with no agenda in mind. If you’re going into an informational interview, research the company beforehand. However, remember to still be yourself as you don’t want to come off like a robot spitting out random company facts.
Ask questions.
Asking questions (and the right ones) shows that you are paying attention and value the person you are talking to. Have a list of questions ready before you talk!
Say thank you and always follow up!
A “thank you” note goes a long way. So does a follow-up.
Make it about the relationship, not about the outcome.
Whether you’re talking to a professor, a potential employer or a friend, always remember that the relationship is what matters most. Though you may want a good grade or the job, having meaningful conversations and fostering strong relationships is what makes you stick out and leave a lasting impression.
What are your thoughts? Do you have any other tips for building your interpersonal skills? Let us know @VALLEYmag!
