Cracking down beyond the surface level with a situationship or on a first date is one of the most fulfilling yet dreary stages of a relationship. Comparing similarities can actually be really fun and discovering another person’s hobbies is refreshing.
However, there are those moments when you either think “aw” or “ew” to yourself. No one is perfect and when getting to know new people, keeping an open mind is the number one rule.
If you were conflicted on whether you admire someone for their dedication to a hobby or are sort of repulsed by it, VALLEY’s got you covered on settling that debate.
Oh Wait… Maybe He’s Different
Picture this: You are on a first date with a guy and he is sharing what he does in his free time. In your head, you are praying he does not utter the words “video games” or “the bros are life,” like every other man you have gotten to know in the last year.
Then, you hear the sound of church bells going off in your head when he starts to tell you about his involvement with THON and his dedication to his committee. Or, his healthy but not egotistical relationship with working out.
Now you might be thinking, “Wow, how low are some people’s standards?” Everyone is entitled to their own hobbies, of course, as it is not exactly about standards. It is more about making sure you won’t cringe every time he does something out of the ordinary if the relationship goes to the next level.
Perhaps, you prefer someone who spends their Sundays doing homework and resetting their apartment for the week rather than someone suffering from a severe hangover.
Those are qualities that might make you stop and think, “Aw, he seems to have his life together.”
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Or Maybe, He’s Just Like The Rest
On the other hand, you have to be on the lookout for hobbies that just do not make for a bachelor contender. Like if a guy expresses that he can recite every episode of SpongeBob SquarePants, that might not make a girl swoon.
Another big one is the classic video game addict. If he is making money from it then sure, you can write that off as a side hustle. But if he has the option of going to class or playing video games, there should be an obvious answer there.
Remember girls, there is a difference between being an Eagles fan and being willing to sell their kidney to Jalen Hurts if he needed it and they were a match.
So, next time you are on a date with a guy and really cannot tell if he is making you squeal with excitement or squirm from a bad case of the ick, refer back to this article!
Let us know at @VALLEYmag on all social media platforms what you think the BIGGEST ick is.
