So the reality television show Love is Blind wants us to believe that physical attraction is irrelevant? Please. We watch as contestants “fall in love” without ever seeing each other, claiming deep connections based on long talks through a wall. But as soon as that wall goes up and people get a real look at each other, reality hits—and it hits hard. The so-called “experiment” suddenly turns into a parade of awkward glances, forced smiles and way too obvious disappointments.
In the pods, they all swear that looks don’t matter and that “real connection” is the only thing they care about. But let’s get real—they can’t resist slipping in hints about their looks or asking what their partner imagines them to be like.
Sure, they want a connection but they also hope there’s some serious attraction when the big reveal happens. Though, for some of them, the moment that wall lifts, you can practically feel the uncomfortable vibe, as if they didn’t say, “This isn’t what I signed up for!” It’s almost like watching someone unwrap a gift they clearly didn’t want.
And hey, call us shallow if you want but I’d rather keep it real than pretend I don’t care about looks. I’m not saying we all need to find a supermodel or fall into society’s trap of impossible beauty standards. Attraction isn’t about society’s “10 out 10’s”— it’s about what you personally find attractive and that’s different for everyone. But if you’re not physically drawn to your partner? That’s not romance, it’s just a friendship with extra steps.
The truth is, we’re so terrified of being called “shallow” that we’ve bought into this myth that “love is blind.” Sorry, but it’s not. Attraction isn’t some shallow add-on; it’s a big part of the deal. If there’s no spark, no butterflies, no genuine draw? You’re only seeing half of what a real relationship should be.
Let’s cut the act. Love isn’t blind — it’s actually about seeing someone entirely and loving what you see. The heart may want what it wants but so do the eyes and ignoring that doesn’t make us deep—it just makes us dishonest. So, here’s the truth: love’s only real when you can look at someone and say, “This is it.”
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