Sittin’ in a Tree, K-I-S-S-I-N-G
When I think of Valentine’s Day, I think of heart-shaped Sweet Tarts and cherry-flavored lollipops attached to notes from friends, all packed into decorated boxes. These sweet memories of the holiday come from elementary school traditions; back when February 14th’s only significance was a class party and a half-day of school.
Now that I’m older, the holiday holds connotations of sadness and stress surrounding a lack of romantic attention and capitalistic motivation.
Rather than a celebration of love, the holiday’s historical roots rest in war and execution. When Emperor Claudius II banned marriage in an effort to encourage men to go to war, a Roman priest — now known as Saint Valentine — took to marrying people in secret; an effort that ultimately resulted in his execution.
These economical and historical notations surrounding Valentine’s Day cloud the true meaning of the holiday: to celebrate those you love.
First Comes ‘Love’
On Valentine’s Day, there is an immense amount of pressure for those in relationships to plan the perfect date. Flowers, chocolates and elaborate dinner plans have become the bare minimum.
But when everyone is expected to do these things for their special someone, these efforts lose their significance and add to the holiday’s capitalistic nature.
Valentine’s Day also ignores platonic relationships. On February 14th, social media bombards users with romantic love, despite the many forms of love that exist in the world.
This negativity that surrounds Valentine’s Day sours my sweet memories of wearing heart-patterned tights, receiving custom valentines from classmates and indulging in pink and red treats.
But, these aspects of childhood Valentine’s celebrations can easily be recreated as an adult to revive the holiday from its untimely grave.
Then Comes Celebration!
This year on February 14th, bypass any negative emotions that may arise by creating a holiday to look forward to past childhood.
While having a special someone can be a wonderful experience, it’s not required for these Valentines’ celebrations. Love is multifaceted and its existence in relationships with family, friends and yourself deserves to be celebrated.
Incorporate these simple celebrations into your day to enjoy the holiday with child-like joy:
- Write personalized notes for your loved ones to share your appreciation for them
- Promote self-love by wearing anything pink, red or heart-patterned to look and feel good
- Treat yourself to chocolate-covered strawberries or red velvet cupcakes to make the day special
There’s no reason to dread Valentine’s Day year after year. Make the most out of the holiday by appreciating and acknowledging the love that surrounds you.
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