The concept of “right person, wrong time” has plagued the minds of many for years. You meet someone, you connect with them, get attached and then for some reason, things don’t work out the way you hoped they would. We justify the end of this relationship with, “They were the right person, we just met at the wrong time.”
Sometimes your friends will nod their heads and agree saying, “If it is meant to be you guys will find your way back together.” Other times they’ll roll their eyes and say, “Or maybe it just wasn’t meant to be.” As a society, we seem to be very divided on whether the concept of “right person, wrong time” exists or if it is just something we tell ourselves to cope with after a breakup.
VALLEY took a look at many different perspectives on the concept of “right person, wrong time” in order to help discover the truth behind if it truly exists, or if we are just being delusional (as many of us are.)
“Right Person, Wrong Time”
Some are die-hard believers in the ‘right person, wrong time’ concept. That idea that things would have worked out differently and they would have ended up together if they met at a different point in their lives. There are many different circumstances that could lead to a relationship not working out and it is not always due to a lack of love. Sometimes outside forces like distance or personal issues can lead to the forced end of a connection. Does this mean that they are still your person or ‘soulmate’ and that you just got unlucky with your timing? Or does this mean that it wasn’t meant to be?
“If It Was The Right Person, It Would Be The Right Time”
Some would argue that, “Well, if it WAS the right person there would never be a wrong time.” This goes hand in hand with the concept of everything happening for a reason. The idea that if you were truly meant to be together, the universe would have made you meet them at the right time and things would have worked out the way you had hoped.
“Wrong Person, Right Time”
Some people come into our lives with the purpose of being temporary. Some love is not meant to last forever, but that does not mean that it is for nothing. Relationships teach us fundamental lessons about ourselves and they also teach us how to better love another person.
If we did not love and make mistakes and learn from them, how would we ever find success in our relationships? Perhaps instead of trying to force our connections to last forever, we can find the purpose of those connections in the bigger picture and what they have taught us. The wrong person can come into your life at the exact right time to teach you something critical at that moment in your life.
What do you think? Does “right person, wrong time” really exist? Or is it something we tell ourselves to try and force our connections to last? Let us know your thoughts @VALLEYmag on X!
