A simple favor is all VALLEY asks for. If we need a ride to the airport, food from the store or a chaser from Mclanahan’s, who do you call without hesitation? Asking and fulfilling favors is a lost art where apps like Uber, DoorDash and Instacart complete what could’ve been done with one of our friends. In our heads, favors turn into perceived burdens on others where we feel too nervous to ask for the smallest thing.
Ask! What’s the Worst That Can Happen?
The hardest part is asking. So many questions arise in our heads when debating on asking for a favor. Will they say no? Am I putting a burden on them? Are they just going to laugh in my face? All of these irrational thoughts take over our initial favor.
We cannot predict the other person’s response, but most of the time they will say yes! If it’s a true friend, they’ll want to support us in any way. A simple favor can go a long way. On our end, we feel loved by those who say yes to our little requests, but the receiving end can feel validated in their abilities to help you!
More Than A Favor.
Yes, asking your friend to drive you somewhere or pick up paper towels from the store are not grand favors, but they are small acts of love and kindness. Everyone benefits from small favors. Diving deeper into this lost art, favors felt more common before an app could replace friends or families for these needs.
A favor showcases love and gratitude, where we feel grateful for the other person’s selfless act, while simultaneously they are grateful to aid in the first place. Everyone feels valued rather than burdened with someone else’s needs.
Favors can turn into a cycle too. Someday, that person may return the favor to you and so forth. A cycle of favors can only strengthen a friendship and reliability on each other. We trust our friends to help us in a time of need because we’d do the same for them. Favors display our affection for our relationships and how deeply we care for them.
As favors act as a factor to deepening our connections, don’t always rely on apps like Uber or Instacart to instantly fulfill our needs. Those small favors can create fond memories with our friends. We do not feel the same gratification or love when a random person drops off our groceries, or when we sit in silence with our driver for 45 minutes. We miss out on hearing random stories that have you and your friends analyzing situations or reflecting on nostalgic memories.
Asking a favor can only bring more good than harm. To ease our thoughts about scenarios of someone giving us a harsh no, don’t fret and ask someone else!
Tag @VALLEYmag on X about the last time you were asked a favor!
