Writing the Perfect Thank You Note

Growing up, my mom always had two things in her hands on Christmas morning: a cup of coffee and a piece of paper. While my sister and I tore open our presents, she made lists—carefully recording each item and its sender.

As I discovered later, it was these lists, which held the key to the beautifully handwritten thank you notes she wrote every holiday season. Because of them, my mom never forgot to acknowledge a single sender.

Taking the time to write a thoughtful thank you note goes a long way, especially after someone special takes the effort to buy you a gift. Like my mother, making a list will ensure that you remember all your presents and will prevent you from accidentally forgetting a giver.

What goes inside the letter is equally important as the gesture itself. A good thank you note should be genuine and personal. In the body, be sure to re-state the gift you were given along with how you plan to use it. These little details may seem trivial to you, but are meaningful to the person who opens your card.

After thanking them for the gift, a good note will briefly discuss your plans to see the recipient again. Are you looking forward to their next visit? Will you be seeing them soon? Let them know that you’re thinking of them for more than just their gift. In addition to any upcoming plans, show your interest in anything important that may have just happened to them recently. For example, letting your aunt and uncle know that their new home renovations are beautiful is just an example of a small way to show you care. Conclude your note by thanking them one last time for their gift. Your sincerity should shine all the way through to the end of your signature.

Consider writing your ‘thank you’ on a piece of stationary, preferably something personalized. If you don’t already have a stationary set, check out a paper store like Papyrus or Hallmark for wide variety of options to choose from.

When you’re buying a new set, think classic, but take into account your own personality and style too. Depending on which paper you decide to go with, a set of quality stationary can be pricey—so it’s important to be mindful of your budget. Regardless of price, stationary is an investment piece for any young woman.

Example Thank You Note:

Dear Grandma and Grandpa,

Thank you so much for the beautiful necklace you gave me this year for Hanukkah. I love all the colors and can’t wait to wear it to fall formal—it will go perfectly with my dress!

I had such a great time with you over the holiday and am looking forward to when you both come up to visit Penn State. I’m so excited for you to meet all my friends and see where I take my classes. The campus is pretty big, so be sure to pack your sneakers! 

Thank you again for the necklace! I’ll be sure to send you a picture of me wearing it with the dress.

Love,
Carolyn