There are many laws of the universe. One big one is the law of mirrors, or the law of reflection. The idea behind this one simple law is that those feelings we have towards other people originate from our own hearts.
Whether those feelings are positive or negative, we often see ourselves reflected in those closest to us and vice versa. There are various books and podcasts on the subject, but VALLEY has broken it down so that you can have all the info in one spot! The law of mirrors is the key to wonderful relationships with family, friends and significant others.
Real Eyes Realize
Sometimes we notice a characteristic that we dislike from someone around us and this agitates us. We feel frustrated towards the other person for having such a characteristic. In that moment we fail to realize that the reason we are able to recognize those characteristics is because we too acquire them. This may be hard to hear, but it is necessary. It is often easier to see the negative characteristics of others rather than within ourselves. We are quick to place the blame anywhere but within.
We are only able to change ourselves. If we notice a characteristic that we don’t like in others, we can’t expect them to change. It is up to us to make a change to better that relationship. For example, if someone close to you seems to be stubborn and you hate that about them, it’s because deep down you know you are stubborn and you hate that about yourself. You are the only one that can start to change and once you do, that relationship and all others will be better because of it.
The Beautiful Envy
Did you realize how in the movie “Inside Out,” Envy was cute, small and commenting on the positive characteristics of others? She was over admiring those around her. When people think of envy, they usually think of a feeling of jealousy that goes beyond admiration and into a level of hate.
The movie was trying to show that envy is in fact beautiful. Envy pushes us to be better and to see the beauty in others. As mentioned before, we are able to see these beautiful and admirable characteristics in others because we have them too.
You see your best friends and family members as beautiful, kind and strong because you are beautiful, kind and strong. We wouldn’t be able to label someone else’s beauty if we didn’t know how to feel it or experience it within ourselves. It doesn’t matter how many books or videos you have on beauty and kindness, you can only truly know what it is if you have seen it in yourself.
We Are One
Another strong quote that reflects this law is that you become those you surround yourself with. Naturally, after spending so much time with someone, you feel like you guys are becoming one. Not in a copycat way, just naturally you begin to adopt a similar way of speaking.
Maybe you start saying words your best friend says or making the same poses. It’s something that happens so subconsciously and you don’t even realize it until someone points it out. This is merely you mirroring the people around you and seeing them reflected in you as well.
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